Jessica Silsby helps women overcome their challenges around eating and body image so that they can stop obsessing about food and start enjoying life.
After years of yo-yo dieting and battling with emotional eating, Jess healed her relationship with food and a passion was born to help others do the same. She went on to study at The Institute for the Psychology of Eating where she discovered holistic approaches to help women make peace with their food issues, once and for all.
You’ve followed your passion for helping other women heal their relationship with food, (which is incredibly inspiring!) when did you decide this was your calling?
I knew once I finished dancing (which was my life and career for many years) that I wanted to work in the wellness industry.
At first I thought I wanted to become a naturopath or nutritionist. But it wasn’t until I had my own meltdown (aka gaining a lot of weight after yoyo dieting my whole life), then proceeded to heal my own relationship with food that I knew wanted to help other women do the same. I studied eating psychology and turned my mess into my message!
What is your morning ritual?
I’m not really a morning person to be honest! My little rituals are more spread throughout the day. Like eating my lunch outside everyday with no distractions. It’s like a eating meditation for me.
Another favourite ritual is to repeat affirmations to myself. My current ones are “I am building my business with ease and grace” and “I have vibrant glowing health”.
If you had three top tips for any women dealing with body confidence, what would they be?
+ Begin to observe how you’re speaking to your body. Are you tearing yourself down or building yourself up? Just observe, awareness is really powerful. Because you could be in such a habit of putting yourself down that you don’t even know you’re doing it anymore. If you want to look in the mirror and feel happy with what you see you have to cut the self degrading chatter. You’ve got to start speaking to yourself with kindness and build yourself up.
+ Stop comparing! It’s a brutal attack on yourself. It’s actually crazy to compare two people, everyone is so unique.
+ Write a list of all the things you would do and all the ways you would feel if you had your perfect body. Then start doing those things and living from that place now. There is no reason why you can’t, other than whatever you’re telling yourself. It’s pretty magical to begin living that way now.
What are some of your guilty (or not so guilty, as we like to call it) pleasures?
…I love funny memes. Like, maybe a little too much. One of my girlfriends loves them too, we’re a bit obsessed and are constantly texting them back and forth. Lucky we have each other!
What fears have you had to overcome along your personal journey??
A big fear was worrying what other people thought. It’s been about different things over time. I used to literally worry when I crossed the road that strangers were judging my body and weight. Then I used to worry about what people would think about me starting my own business. “Who is she to do that?” is what I worried people would say.
Eventually you realise how draining it is to constantly worry about what other people think. It’s a waste of time. You don’t even truly know what anyone is thinking, it’s what they might be thinking. Reminding myself to let that go is so powerful.
What do you think are the main contributing factors to an unhealthy relationship with food?
99.9% of the time, any unwanted behaviour around food is a symptom of something greater that is going on. I’d have to say the absolute top one is body shame. It can fuel all sorts of crazy restriction around food, which leads to rebellion (binging), which leads to guilt, which leads to shame, which leads to restriction. Then you end up in a vicious circle. All because you think your body is wrong. That’s why I’m so obsessed with body love.
Along your journey with healing your relationship with food, what are three major results your experienced?
Freedom and BLISS around food. Rather than fear, control, tightness, stress etc. I could seriously cry at how much happiness I feel day to day coexisting with food now. I used to never think it would be possible.
Weight loss without trying – this blew my mind! Because I had always restricted and controlled my way into weight loss. But when I finally relaxed about it all I lost weight without trying.
I’m not scared anymore. I was always scared of being too big, then if I lost weight I’d be scared of gaining it back. I was always in fear. Not anymore.
What is your ultimate life motto?
Act as if you’re already there. Be happy now.
For the entrepreneurs out there, what three pieces of advice would you give to those who want to build a successful business from following their passion?
Just start. It might be scary, but you’ve got to take the first step. Jump in!
Don’t compare your beginnings to someone else’s middle. A practise you’ll probably always have to come back to as it’s so easy to slip into comparison.
Connect with like minded people, find a mentor, join online groups with other entrepreneurs – basically surround yourself with people who get you and will take you higher.
Quick Q & A
How do you define success? I feel successful when I live in alignment with what’s best for my soul.
When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you ‘grew up’? A dancer. Or ice cream taste tester, obviously!
Who inspires you? Aside from you, Bianca? Melissa Ambrosini has been a huge inspiration to me in both wellness and building a heart centred business. I’m also inspired by women who just own who they are, who ooze authentic confidence in their skin.
Favourite Quote? “Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” Louise Hay
Do you have a current promo? My books are open! I have a limited number of spots for women who are eager to heal their eating challenges and feel less crazy around food.
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